Thoughts of...

I really need to go out at times and I abso-fucking-lutely  love it. Perfect time for not thinking about unfinished business and other untold stories. (Not as bad as I think, but still, I’m good. Don’t worry…) Somehow, an escape is a good way to relieve the continuous pain.

It’s important to build up something in life, creating light under darkness to eliminate your fearsome, investing a new hobby or maybe go to a bookstore and look for something rich in pleasure and leisure. Of course, don’t let yourself rotting at home thinking about all the dark sides of your other part. It’s unhealthy you know… It’s like you spend most of your time dwell in the past mistakes. (Humans are not perfect.) I'm a star, not the superstar, but a star that lights up in the dark gloomy sky. (My friends called me, Natastar.)

Stop thinking about others, but on the flip side think about others. Now what does that mean?...A friend of mine, admitted said she used to be a very sensitive person, especially in friendship. And when she think about it, it’s pretty stupid. Back days in college life, when she’s closed to a few people, she thought she was someone special to them. So, she hanging out and spend some time to make their friendship closer. And yes, it did…But not until one day, both of them started to avoid each other because they no longer have the same topics/things to talk about. She was furious, because she thought she’s going to lose them. Sadly, they part away after things get better from a misunderstanding and they’ve settled down. After graduation, all of them parted away with their own direction.

At one moment, I’ve come to realise that in anyone’s life, I am not probably the most important person to them. You think they have 24/7 to think about you at every single day? And do you think this will impact me and my decisions? SOOO NOT.

People Come, People Go, - famous quote of the day. You may use this every time when you encounter the same scenario. People come to your life and leave you for so many reasons. To use you, To intimidate you, You’re not their soulmate, To waste your time. (All these are common in building a ship/ joining a string).

But…Not to worry, you just be need to settle down by having a proper conversation on this matter with the other party. Yup, maybe is better to discuss it personally and is better to talk about it rather than keeping everything to yourself. The more things you keep within your heart, the more furious and anger you’ll be, or the sadder you be. It’s important to choose people in your life who are empathetic. People who understand how you feel and how much you deal in life are a good example. In fact, being a good listener is also a good thing, but try to adjust or re-position your reaction if the other party preferred no advices or just keep quiet when they spill the beans. Try not letting them to drag all the darkness and all the sadness into you. It’s not about you, is about them. They’re not the Dark Lord, not even Lord Voldermort.

Ok, on the flip side, thinking about others. At times, don’t be self-centered all the time but also think about others, especially the love ones. There are certain times, we being selfish and greedy to ourselves. Mainly, due to the target goal achievement in career development, how competent we are in a any forms of working field, saving yourself away from the problem occurred in the your team rather than work it out together. That is really self-hatred, from the way of how we acted, how we look and how we feel. There’s nothing wrong of being competent within yourself, but if you feel with someone in your work group as a competition, that person probably will start the fight of getting their ways to kick you off. But, if you’re the victim then....please do stay away from those parasite predators and avoid all actions they try to give. Put them out of the ear and put the important stuff in your ear.

If we think about others instead of just focusing to ourselves, it will be better and we start to realize that we’re doing something good for the world. Let’s take the kids in Africa as example, regarding food. We should be blessed to have what we have and also we were thought to think about others as well. I, myself always think about others, but I didn’t think about myself that much. Overall, we shall just put a smile on the face and take it as it comes. Every day has a new challenge, and every day we develop things.

Do what you love – Try to make it as a hobby rather than just a passion of make loads of $. Look for something to distract yourself from the stress of being stress to yourself. Read a motivation book, watch Netflix drama series, take a train to a city and be a tourist for a day, drive yourself to a popular restaurant, learn and develop something new,… Look at all I just list down.

Whatever it is, keep doing it, there’s nothing more peaceful than doing exactly what you mean to do at that moment of time. Give/Cut yourself some slack by doing something productive.